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Vol.23
Stripping off. |
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Please excuse the shocking
title. As you may have
suspected, the theme is not
about stripping off one’s
clothes, but rather about one’s
unravelling state of mind.
In recent years, I have
notice that there is a trend
towards extreme secrecy and
self-guarding by creating a
tall mental wall under the name
of privacy and personal
information protection.
Among the factors people
don’t want others to know,
there is the socially accepted
issue of women’s age. It is
said to be a taboo to ask a
woman her age, but as a man, I
don’t understand the logic or
the sentiment behind it. It is
understandable in cases of
professionals such as actresses
and models whose age is
directly connected to their
interests. But why don’t
ordinary female office workers
and housewives want their age
revealed?
I suppose the
underlying mentality is the
desire to stay beautiful and to
look youthful. However, if a
woman conceals her age and was
seen to be five years younger,
for instance, it only means
that people have mistaken her
age as being five years
younger. It does not mean her
rating goes up. Rather, if a
woman is open about her age and
is still seen to be five years
younger, would she not be
praised more as this must be
the result of her effort and
ingenuity?
Age is the
history of a person since their
birth. People must be
responsible for their own
history. Society also requires
them to have common sense
appropriate to their age.
People are wary of those
who have many secrets and do
not trust them. On the other
hand, if they become open to a
socially acceptable extent,
their colleagues, bosses, and
neighbours could trust them and
form a comfortable
relationship.
I wonder
what those with many secrets
are trying to protect by hiding
things from others. If they are
hiding their faults and
weaknesses, it is the way of
the world that they will
eventually become known to
others in most cases. On top of
that they will be labelled as
being “secretive”. I believe
that they would feel more at
ease if they are open from the
start, and with no one watching
their back, they would be able
to maintain smooth
interpersonal relationships.
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